Think about making incantations part of your routine
If you want to create real change in your life, affirmations alone aren’t enough. You can recite something uplifting, but if you aren’t embodying it physically, then you are only skimming the surface.
The quality of your life is not necessarily based on the quality of your circumstances, it’s based on your mental and emotional filters that determine how you look at your life.
This influences the stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we’re capable of, or what’s achievable or not. The states we go into most often then become the most powerful filter of all that will determine whether we find the strategies necessary to succeed and whether we come up with a story that will empower us.
So, what can we do to change our state of mind when we’re not able to maximise our true potential? You can alter your emotional mood by a radical shift in your physiology, and we can start to achieve that through incantations.
It’s your standards and values that dictate behaviour
The true quality of your life is not defined by how you handle yourself when things are going well but how you behave when things go wrong.
Do you easily give up or resolve to follow through? The meanings we assign to events influence what actions we take as a result. It’s our decisions, not our conditions, that ultimately shape the quality of our lives. At any moment the decision you make can change the course of your life forever. Asking for and demanding what you truly want is different from focusing on what’s missing. Unless you create movement and expend energy by taking action, the focus you determine and the meaning you assign are empty gestures.
“The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you.” – Tony Robbins
Learn to use fear to your advantage
What stops us from moving forward? Fear. If you’re an achiever you probably call it stress. Stress is fear. We all experience fear in some context during our lives: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of love, fear of being alone, or fear of the unknown. In fact, it’s hard-wired in all human beings – nothing we do in our lifetime will take fear away.
So, what’s the best way to deal with fear? You must learn to dance with it. In the video below, Tony reveals how to use fear to your advantage — instead of letting it use you.
Where your focus goes, your energy flows
What are you asking yourself right at this moment?
As Tony says, “Quality questions create a quality life. Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” Remember, it’s not the events of your life that determine how you feel and act but, rather, the meaning you create from your life’s experiences.
With this in mind, realise that the higher quality of your primary question, the higher quality of a life you will lead and the more people you will inspire as a result of the asking and focusing. Once you’ve determined to live out your primary question, it’s through practice, values and rituals that you will build a new extraordinary story for your life. If you are not acting in accordance with a primary question that serves you, you are not setting yourself up for success.
What is your number one value?
Every decision in your life is controlled by your beliefs and values. You may not realise it, but you have the power to choose what you believe about your life, people, money and health. You can either choose beliefs that limit you, or beliefs that empower you to move toward success. Your beliefs energize you to create the world you want to live in right now. What you value determines what you focus on.